How a Change in Perspective Changed My Life

Perspective is important. I consider it the first key to self improvement. Imagine yourself standing with your nose three inches away from a massive brick wall. When you look right and left, the wall seems to go on forever.

You look up and notice the wall is much taller than you are.

You can’t climb it. You can’t walk around it. This wall represents that problem you’re focusing on.

You can’t do anything to overcome it from where you are now. If you stopped focusing on the wall you would have realized a ladder sitting a few steps behind you.

I had an issue of standing at the foot of my walls. Life is interesting when you stop focusing on the walls and start focusing on how to get over it.

If a doctor told you that you’re going to die in a month from now, would what you’re complaining about still matter to you? 

From a life or death perspective, little problems are nonexistent.

Only a few months ago, I was constantly unhappy because of a few problems surrounding money, work and my future. I wasn’t unhappy with my life, I hated that I did nothing to help myself get over these walls. I let it ruin my overall attitude.

I felt an absence in my life where my creative and entrepreneurial projects should be. I got stagnant and needed to reboot my life.

I started defining myself by my job and not defining myself by my passions. I am a creative person; I write music, I draw and I write this blog. I’m not just an employee.

When I started working at my day job I somehow forgot to appeal to this big part of me. I started this website with overcoming these three walls in mind.

Most of us can’t quit our day jobs to start doing what we love immediately, but luckily I mentioned in my last article how to create a lot of extra time. I was able to start using my free time to work on building ladders to overcome the problems I had complained about.

Overcoming these walls will make you happy.

In my area it’s very difficult to get a full-time position as a firefighter. My friend is facing that wall now. He doesn’t focus on the wall, he’s been spending time building his ladders to get over it.

He volunteers within the community as a hockey coach and spends many weekends volunteering for his local fire department.

Without asking him I know he’s already happy.

Think of how much more happy he will be when he’s over his wall, and think of how happy you will be when you’re over yours.

In life, there are things that will make you unhappy, outweigh them with the good. Spend your extra time on things that matter most to you by defining your walls.

What are you doing to get over your walls? If you’re unhappy about money, spend your free time earning more. If you’re unhappy with your work, spend your free time finding something new.

If you’re not willing do everything in your power to get over your wall, don’t complain about it.

Complaining will make you focus on the problem and make you miss the solutions that are all around you. Forget the wall and focus on getting over it.

Perspective will make you more successful than hard work ever can.

If you can’t be grateful for the comforts and material things in your life now, you won’t be happy with more. You can feel more successful now by realizing the success you already have.

If something you do often makes you happy, you’re going to be happy often.

You’re going to feel a huge shift in perspective when you start looking for the ladder over your wall instead of complaining about how big the wall is.

When you have goals that are in line with your passion it’s easy to overcome the problems life hands you. I urge you to identify your walls and use your free time to find ways to make it better.

I am the happiest I’ve ever been because I’m taking my problems head-on instead of complaining about them. Think of everytime you complain about your problem as a step towards the wall, making it look even bigger and making it more difficult to see the ladder. The less you focus on the problem the further you will get from the wall, making it seem more manageable. You might find your solution in your widened frame.

It’s all about perspective.

I’m happy to announce an extension of this blog I’ve been working on. At the Startup Line will interview business owners and company founders for a peek inside the brain of entrepreneurs of all levels.

If you or anyone you know would like to join me for an interview please send and email to with your business name and industry.

Thank you for reading this. If you liked this article please do me the favor of sharing it. I greatly appreciate your support.

Connor Graham,

Marketing consultant, blogger and personal performance strategist.


Connor Graham

Hi, I'm Connor Graham. I help others achieve financial freedom and self-improvement through my tips, ideas and insight. Combining my knowledge of real estate, finance and marketing, I describe creative ways to manage your finances and invest in yourself.

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2 Responses

  1. Nimo says:

    Hi Connor,
    I absolutely love this post and even wrote down a few things for rumination. Thanks for writing!

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