How to Fake it Until You Make it – What are you Learning Lately
Don’t be the biggest fish in the small pond. Be a minnow that’s learning to swim in a massive ocean.
Surround yourself with people who are so much better than you that it’s embarrassing to be at the level you are now.
Pulling yourself out of your comfort zone like this will eventually force you into theirs. This is the essence of faking it until you make it.
Sorry. You are, and always should be a small fish.
That means that we can always learn something from somebody. Don’t lie to yourself that you are the best.
There is a 1 in 7.48 billion chance that you are the best person at your thing and there are 7.48 billion people on earth are better something than you.
It feels great being the best at something in your small pond, but the glory is short-lived. There is no point in calling yourself the best at mediocrity. Being a minnow takes the humbleness of knowing there is always more to learn.
Getting really good comparatively to a small group is nothing. Getting really good compared to everyone is something worth being proud of.
Successfully set your personal expectations higher than you think is possible.
Do you think that the founders of big brands peg themselves against start-up companies?
They compared themselves to the best of the industry and found ways to make their product better.
If you want to make it big find someone who is already where you want to be, and make them your mentor. Life is easier with someone who has done it all before in your corner.
Imagine a foot race where:
Racer #1 runs 1KM in a clear straight line and,
Racer #2 is running 2KMs of hurdles in the dark.
Without a mentor you are left to learn from your failures alone with little guidance and a total lack of time-saving shortcuts. A mentor will help you avoid the hurdles that make you feel like giving up.
Don’t ever assume someone has nothing to offer you.
The next time you feel yourself judging somebody who may not seem as adapt, find something about them that you’re not as good at. There is always something. Every single relationship you have should nurture some type of learning.
One day I was meeting with someone to buy a cell phone at a downtown coffee shop. They never showed up. I sat and drank a coffee in case they were running late. Without a cell phone to check the location and time we agreed upon I felt stuck.
As I looked at the clock on the wall for the 6th or 7th time in a matter of 10 minutes, an odd-looking old man barked,
“Need anything buddy?”
His appearance would typically have me say,
“I’m fine, thank you.”
But I told him my dilemma instead. We spoke for almost two hours about my career aspirations and his kid who worked as a VP for a major textbook publishing company. When I said goodbye, we exchanged emails and he taught me something I still use to this day.
He said, “In business everyone shakes hands like this” as he grabbed my hand firmly and gave it a jerk up then down like a typical firm handshake.
“If you want people to remember you, do this.”He grabbed firmly grabbed my hand like a typical handshake but added his free hand on the opposite side to sandwich mine in the middle and said thank you while holding eye contact.
He told me, “If you shake hands like that and give every person 1 or 2 seconds of eye contact before reaching out to the next hand in the circle people will know you care.”
If I let myself think he had nothing offer me nothing I would have missed out on something that I use daily. I learned that everyone has something to teach you and it is only your fault if you can’t figure out what that is.
If you want to outperform your own expectations, make it your goal to find great people who you can learn from, and learn the great things about people you already know. It might be a little thing, but compounded tiny improvements can lead to massive change. Greatness is practiced with every interaction. Fake it until you make it. Be the small fish, but find your ocean.